Aug 27 2009
Not sure where to start
At the beginning I suppose.
At end of July had a call for the immediate family to come down to Edinburgh as Gran wasn’t getting any better. So we booked on board the boat on Thurs 30th. The Wednesday I had my DLA tribunal and was refused DLA. On the Friday Martin and I split up. Gran died a week later. The following weekend was my sisters Wedding. It rained on the evening of the Humanist ceremony so they had to hold it in Tyninghame Village Hall instead of the beach. After that we went to Sister & now Hubby’s house for a buffet. The next day was the Christian blessing, meal and Celiedh. I even managed 2 dances, well two half dances.
Wednesday following the wedding was Grans funeral which Dad took, it was lovely but emotional and we had a wake thing after at a nearby bowling club.
I arrived back on Saturday. Sunday I should have gone to Camera Club but had no energy. Monday all the mail got delivered and found out that the DLA panel thought I was lying and quote “We are unable to accept the history which she proiveds as being accurate or genuine” Grrrrrrrrr. I’ve been livid about that all week. I mean if I wanted to cheat the benefit system I’d think I’d come up with something less bizarre than having ME/CFS and a fainting condition.
Mam and Dad are on the boat tonight so MLS has been coming through to check that I’m ok. I’m being a good girl and making denner for Mam and Dad the morn it was going to be broth but no broth mix so it’s now lentil soup and Mince for mains. MLS and Jam have been great and such a great support to me I can’t thank them enough.
Tomorrow I’m off to see the Proclaimers with MLS and Jam. Looking forward to that loads.
Monday I have an appointment with CAB to see what other benefits are available and to start applying for a Sheltered House. It means that I will have my independence but there will be a Warden on hand if something goes wrong and I should get a home help as well.
You’re certainly a fighter mirlnlass. Lesser wimmin would have subsided into a wobbly jelly of self-pity. Good for you. Me’n'Marmers and various humans are really sorry to hear you’ve been put through the wringer and would like to send *furryhugs* winging your way. I can’t think of anything more calculated to lift flagging spirits than a Proclaimers concert. Have a ball
So sorry to learn of your loss and your sad troubles; Lass. But just as life has a way of giving you a few kicks when you least need them, things do tend to turn around when you least expect it. I promise you that I can attest to that fact from personal experience.
Please try to keep your wits about you and be super open to any help, information or wise suggestions that may lessen your load. One final point, happiness, even if it lasts only minutes is still happiness, (literally) nevertheless. It will soon grow for you as well.
All the best from the USA,
Greg
p.s. and keep writing. It’s a great outlet.
Oh what a lot of troubles and sadness have landed on you, Mirlnlass, I’m so sorry. (((((hugs))))) to you, and good on you for the brave way you’re coping. Fingers crossed for your sheltered accommodation - that will give you a boost. Good luck and all the best.
Hugs and support comin atcha from Orkney! Hang in there and don’t give up!
Sorry about the rough time you are going through, hope
situation improves. These boards you go before are
sometimes out to lunch as we say. My brother was
in Korea in a Mortar Platoon. After he came home he became a Coal Miner. Later on in Life He bacame quite deaf and tried to claim a small pension due to Explosions in the mine to loosen coal. No chance, the Coal Board blamed the Mortars for his deafness, and MOD said he did not get affected in the Army. These Boards are set up that way.
You deserve help and hope you get what you need.
Goodluck.
hey hun…you just keep fightin! Go to the mattresses! love ya xox
how are feeling now mirlnlass